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Monday, March 16, 2015

Time For a Change

I've felt like it's been time for a change in what I see in the mirror. It's been a long time coming. It's going to be a process.

First, I decided I was sick of my long scraggly hair that was starting to turn gray, especially the roots. I'd been excited about having silver hair, but I don't like Helen Mirren or EmmyLou Harris. Nope.
So, the first step was to cut my hair, and then dye it.  For some reason, I was all for ANY color. I considered pink, turquoise, purple, bright red... and my husband agreed on red.  Well, technically my hair *is* red, so I guess he felt that was the least shocking?  I was fine with it looking like an obviously fake color, so I figured I'd get a wild red.

So, yesterday, 3 of my daughters and I went to the mall an hour away, and they shopped, while I got my hair cut.  They took about 6 inches off and more in some places. I got it layered, which I realized was a bad idea when she tried to blow dry it straight... yeah that didn't work.  I was a poof ball.  So she flat ironed it, but by the time we were done shopping at Target, TJ Maxx and Books A Million, you would have never known it was once straight at all. POOF.  I was really worried I'd made a terrible mistake.

On the way back home, we stopped at Sally Beauty Supply, and my college girl who is home on Spring Break got some lavender hair dye and a bleach kit. So, I looked for the brightest red hair dye I could get without bleaching mine.  Mine is already frizzy, I didn't want to damage it more than necessary. My kid also said she thought I'd need 2 packs since my hair was long, so since the really bright one only had one box, I went for the next brightest.  It's by Ferria, and was really pretty on the model.  I knew it would not look like that on me, but I was willing to see what it would do. 

When I got home, I called my oldest daughter who dyes her hair all the time (and her sister in law's) and she was excited to do mine.  So at 1am in the morning, she came over and dyed my hair. When it was all done, I used the diffuser on my hair dryer (for curls) and I loved it! It looks wild and crazy, but it's different!  It's a lot darker, and makes my face look even paler, so my makeup will likely change a little. The cool thing is, it's purple in the sunlight. It's definitely a wine color, not a bright red, and the highlights are purple.  Very cool.

I wouldn't have had purple hair when I was in my 20s, but at age 44, going on 45,...  I'm perfectly cool with purple hair.

Here's the pics...

BEFORE... long and scraggly!


MIDDLE.. after the hair cut but before the dye.


Like my shirt?  it says Pugs and Kisses!  LOL

And AFTER!  Cut and dyed and blow dried to be super curly!



Step 2 will be getting new glasses. No clue what color yet, but they'll be plastic again.  I prefer them. Probably black geek glasses, but who knows!

Step 3 will finally be getting my lower dentures done. In fact, my teeth are why I'm not doing vlog videos.. I just can't show my face on videos yet.  I did a test video, and I just can't do it.  But it's been the final push I needed to finally get them done.  I was going to last year, and just kept putting it off. But no longer.  My husband's benefits take effect at the end of April, so we'll have two dental plans on me at that time. No more excuses.

So far, I am feeling pretty good about everything. Optimistic!  Which is good because otherwise I feel like crap at the moment.  Walking around all day after driving for 5 hours to get my kid from college the day before... well my body decided today was NO.  I was supposed to get up and go grocery shopping before my husband went to work, but when I found out he called in sick (flu with a fever of 102.6), I stayed in bed, and then realized how sore I was.  I should have taken Ibuprofen earlier, but all I wanted to do was lay there.  I ended up staying in bed til time to go to work.  I feel awful about it.  I wasted a whole day, but I guess in the end, my body needed the rest.  Tomorrow I plan on being super productive.  I already have a head start getting all the dishes done and kitchen cleaned up. Ready for a good week!

Hope y'all had a great weekend!
Patty

Fauxbonichi Flip Thru for the rest of January 2015

Hey y'all!

Sorry I've been missing for a few days.  Everyone here seems to be battling a bug, and when it hit me, my body decided I needed to sleep for 2 days straight to fight it off.  I am finally feeling mostly better now though.

I just uploaded a new video in case anyone would like to check it out. It's the rest of January in my Fauxbonichi Journal flip through.







Tuesday, March 3, 2015

A Little Good News (I Hope) and A Little About My Husband

Ok, first of all, *knock on wood*.  I don't want to jinx this!

A few days ago, my husband came home from work and said, "I'm going to tell you something, and I don't want you to get too excited or start planning for anything."  Well, I prepared myself for the worst. He didn't give any sign as to whether it was good news or bad, so I waited.

A little bit  lot of a backstory here.  My husband, Christopher, worked for KMart for 14 years.  He did almost everything there was to do in that store, from starting out as Christmas help in toys to overnight supervisor, to stockroom asst manager, to stockroom manager to dept manager over all sorts of depts. He was laid off in January 2006 when they restructured, and found a new job with Blockbuster as an assistant manager. He was with them for a few months when he had his heart attack in January 2007. (I kind of hate January now.)  He realized a large part of it was the stress he was under at work, so he quit. He went back to Kmart and applied and was hired immediately for the stockroom. They had a new store manager by then, and the one who had laid him off had actually been demoted and moved to another store... but anyway the new manager immediately saw that Christopher had potential, and made him a key carrier. Within a few months, he was the new Assistant Manager. The store has gone through 4 Store Managers since then, but Christopher just kept on doing his job, and doing it well. One store manager was getting ready to retire and was going to recommend Christopher to be given the store when he did so in a year or so. Unfortunately, that manager was transferred to another store when districts got rearranged, and a new manager was brought in when she moved from New York. She was nice and fair, so at least that was good. Christopher was still going to look into the management training program the company has and see if he could get into one of the classes. However, the new district manager was horrible. He told me she reminded him so much of Dolores Umbridge from Harry Potter, in looks and personality. Basically, just mean.  He'd had glowing reviews from every previous manager and even the previous district manager had respected him when he basically rant the store alone before the new manager was brought in... but not this new one.  In the end, it was obvious she wanted her own team of people running the store.  She fired my husband, and she harassed the new manager, who had just moved here from NY for the job, so badly that she tearfully announced her retirement to the whole store after a phone call with the DM.  Christopher had been the Asst Manager there for 6 1/2 years. 

He was unemployed for 4 months, during which he did look for jobs, but we were doing okay with my income and his unemployment and money we got when his grandfather passed away. So he was able to wait until he found the right job. Fortunately, another company had also been doing some restructuring, and one store's store manager was going to be made a district manager over a whole new district they were creating, and the store's asst manager was going to be store manager for a different store.  So the store desperately needed someone.  So, Christopher got a call and an interview and became the assistant manager of a local discount retail store (not sure if I've mentioned it before, but I'd rather not say it here and jinx it more). It's not in our town, but about 30 minutes away in a rural area (yeah even more rural then here). The DM who hired him, said the store still needed a store manager and that if Christopher did well, he saw him likely getting the store manager position in a couple months. That made the big paycut for his current position really worth it. we just had to hang in there and hope it did happen. It was all sort of up in the air though, because the restructuring was still going on, and the DM who hired him was no longer his DM after just a week, and we didn't know how the new one would feel.

Which brings us to the conversation I started off with...  The new District Manager had called Christopher at work and informed him that the lady who had been the store manager of his store before was finally officially a new District Manager. It was finalized in the system, so finally he could get a new store manager for the store.. and was Christopher interested?  He of course said he was, and the DM said he'd be in soon to talk to him further about it.

YYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I couldn't jump up and down and go crazy with cheering when he told me because he said not to over react. So, that's why I'm telling you all LOL!  It's certainly not a done deal yet, but it sure sounds promising! OMG I am so excited and proud of him!  I told y'all that backstory to give you an idea of the experience he has going into this job.  In fact, I told Christopher that in this new company I can not only see him as being a store manager, but also going on to be a district or regional manager. I'll support him in whatever he wants, even if it's just managing his store. I know he'll be excellent at it.

I will let y'all know if/when we get word that it's official. Of course, it does seem in this company that things like that take some time, so who knows.

Have a great day y'all!



Saturday, February 28, 2015

A New Video is Up: My Finances Book

Hey y'all!

Thanks to everyone who has stopped by my YouTube channel and watched my first video.  Lots of big smiles here seeing that happen. :)

I have finally figured out (sort of)  what I'm doing and actually had a little spare time with hubby was gone to work and kids were asleep and there was daylight!  In this house, that doesn't happen often on my schedule!

I filmed a video on the "book dori"  I made for my finances.  I talk a little about how I made it and even link to the video I saw that taught me how to do it.  Then I talk a little about how I use the books inside and budget and plans.

I may do a more in depth talk on our 6 Phase Plan and how we use the cash envelopes in another video if anyone wants to see that.

Let me know if there's any other videos you'd like to see or blog posts.

Thanks for reading and watching!





Friday, February 27, 2015

Winder Wonderland

I am kind of over the snow, but you have to admit, it sure is gorgeous in the early morning moments before there's tons of foot prints and snowmen...









There were 7 inches of snow on the porch rail when I took these.  Christopher had just left for work.  You can see his tracks. Now the sides of the roads have those big piles of snow from plows and traffic, and soon they'll start turning black from exhaust. I hope it all melts quickly and Spring makes an appearance.  It's almost March for Pete's sake!  I know... in August I'll be wishing it was cold again LOL  To be honest, I don't hate snow.  I kind of want to go sledding!